Never Understand

We can never truly understand one another - it's a sad truth but one that has me thinking other words too; wonderful, unique, independent. 

My family try hard to understand me, try to fit with me and work alongside me. They do their best to not agitate me or raise issues. For all intents and purposes they work to make life easier and better for me. They cannot understand me though. No matter how much I explain or how clearly I express myself they will just never get bits of me: and that, is okay.

Okay, it wasn't always "okay"; sometimes it doesn't even reach halfway to okay.  I know that acceptance goes both ways and I have to realise that if I cannot understand them I am asking a hell of a lot of them to understand me; understand? 

When is it okay to get mad though?

When can we show our unease?

Our displeasure?

Our insecurities?

If they blantently ignore my needs or issues can we take issue? 

I can't cope with change; I'm not as bad as some granted, but the issue is still there, raising its snapping teeth every time someone proposes an alteration. Can I express anger when someone "changes" my life repeatedly on whims; okay, perhaps very deep whims. Decisions made on such quick turnarounds are always made on whims; usually.  You say one thing and as I adjust to that you change back - only to do it all over again as soon as I feel like my feet are returning to the solid terrain beneath. Can I express my anger and frustration? Or do your feelings come first?  It's a genuine question - I really don't know. 

Looking for answers to my questions

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When you make a decision that will affect more than you does that leave you open to retaliation? 

Can I retaliate here?